By Barbara Frank
I always say my kids were homeschooled from birth because they never went to school and they were learning from the day they were born. Yet I didn’t “school” them during the years from birth to age five; we certainly did a lot—played inside and outside, made crafts, painted, colored, I read to them—but I never considered that homeschool preschool. That’s why I was bewildered when I first noticed the trend of moms joining homeschool support groups even though their children were under five years old. I wondered, “What’s their hurry?”
Why Moms Start The Homeschool Preschool Curriculum Early
Talking with some of these moms has given me some insight into why they consider themselves homeschoolers even though their kids are so young. I’ve learned that today’s young parents are under so much pressure to not only send their kids to preschool at age three but to start preparing them (“readiness”) even earlier than three that they feel they must call themselves homeschoolers so people won’t think their little ones aren’t being educated.
In this competitive society of ours, heaven forbid we should let a young child of two or three (or even four or five!) just simply learn through play and experiences. Learning about preschool pressure really makes me feel old.
When my first child was three (how can that be almost twenty years ago?), children of working moms were often put in daycare, but children of stay-at-home moms were home with Mom, and maybe in a park district class for an hour twice a week. Most moms didn’t think about preschool until the year before kindergarten, and even then, many chose not to send their children to it.
Since I had already planned to homeschool my daughter, we never looked into preschool. Once I started homeschooling her at age five, we liked it so much that we never considered putting any of our next three children in preschool, homeschool preschool, or any school.
The Changing Homeschool Preschool Schedule
But while my children were growing up in an atmosphere of homeschooling families where preschool wasn’t even discussed, the outside world was changing. As more moms rejoined the workforce, the cry went out that children needed preschool in order to succeed in school.
“Educational experts” repeatedly cited the success of the government-run preschool program Head Start, rarely mentioning that the kids in that program were so disadvantaged from the get-go that any special attention would have helped them.
An average child home with an attentive parent wasn’t disadvantaged and didn’t need preschool to become prepared. In fact, even twenty years ago, studies showed that any scholastic advantage gained by preschool wore off by third grade and was even suspected of causing early school burnout. But that aspect of preschool wasn’t advertised much.
A Formal Preschool Program is Not Needed
What concerns me now is that there is an entire generation of young moms out there (you may be one of them) who has been conditioned to believe that their under-age-five children must have some kind of formal preschool program, even one at home, in order to be properly educated. Since I know from experience that this is patently untrue, I feel bad for any mom living under preschool pressure. I worry that finding and implementing a home preschool program for each of her little ones will result in burnout of both the child and the mom.
It would be such a shame to burn out and give up on homeschooling; the thought that an exhausted mom will give up and put her burned-out child into formal schooling at an early age is heart-breaking because it didn’t have to happen. I wish there were an easy way to remove Preschool Pressure from each mom’s existence and instead replace it with preschool peace, which is what I had, as did the many generations of mothers before me.
Recipe for Homeschool Preschool Peace
The best I can do, however, is offer the following recipe in hopes that you’ll read it if you need it and share it with anyone else who needs it. Only by finding homeschool preschool peace can a homeschooling mom conserve her energy for the larger task of homeschooling her children for as many years as she needs to later on, maybe even through high school. I don’t think I could have survived homeschooling two all the way through (and homeschooling two more now) if I’d had to homeschool them in the preschool years. Just the thought makes me want to go take a nap!
Starting as early in your parenting life as possible, mix:
- One large dollop of the works of John Holt, especially How Children Learn (Pitman, 1967, revised edition Delacorte, 1982, Perseus 1995), Learning All the Time (Addison-Wesley 1989, revised edition Perseus, 1990), and Teach Your Own (Delacorte 1981).
- Two heaping cups of Better Late Than Early (Readers Digest Press, 1975) by Dr. Raymond and Dorothy Moore.
- A splash of Preschool Homeschooling by Beverly Krueger (eclectichomeschool.org).
Allow this mixture to rest in your brain for a while; then add (as your child becomes old enough to do these things):
- Lazy afternoons at the park.
- Regular visits to the public library.
- Trips to the zoo and children’s museum.
- Work in the garden (especially making mud pies).
- Large empty appliance boxes and markers.
- Finger paints.
- Long sessions of you reading aloud to them.
Relax and enjoy! Special note: don’t rush through this recipe—take your time because soon enough your little one will be a “big kid,” and both of you will be ready to take on a more complicated “recipe.”
Barbara Frank is the mother of four homeschooled-from-birth children, ages 16-25, a freelance writer/editor, and the author of Life Prep for Homeschooled Teenagers, The Imperfect Homeschooler’s Guide to Homeschooling, and Homeschooling Your Teenagers. You’ll find her on the web at www.cardamompublishers.com and http://barbarafrankonline.com. © 2006 Cardamom Publishers/Barbara Frank.
1 thought on “Homeschool Preschool, And Why You Should Wait”
Thank you! I’ve been giving this same message for nearly twenty years. In addition to the ill effects you mention, there are also social ills of little ones being in a crowd of other, often unruly, little ones. As good as a teacher may be, a bond cannot be developed with either teacher or parent when young children are shuffled back and forth each day. I could go on … Thank you again for this important topic.